Leslie Hawkins - Lifestyle

Turning 24: Time to Adult?

Leslie Hawkins - LifestyleNow I’ll be honest…When I first realized that I was about to turn 24 I was terrified. I was a skip and a hop away from 25, which was a skip and a hop away from 30, a house, a family, a career, and so on. I didn’t know what I wanted to do as far as careers go, or anything else for that matter.

At 23 I was nowhere near where I thought I’d be and nowhere near where I needed to be… in my head at least. But there was one thing that I was missing.  I had no idea where I wanted to be! AND, my last fully thought out analysis of where I should be by now was my 8 year old self saying that I should be a world famous princess with two castles, a family, and a sea of horses by this age. I hadn’t actually taken the time to self reflect and really think about setting some milestone goals, and even just short-term life goals.

When I talk about goals, I don’t mean getting that project/assignment done, or cleaning out the attic before spring. I tackle that in my blog post about Motivation and Reaching Goals. But today, here and now, I mean big goals… Buying a condo/house, moving out of my parent’s house, getting my degree, starting a business, and other things like that.


Leslie Hawkins - Lifestyle/Eat PrettyAt that age, you have friends getting married and having kids, friends moving and getting
real jobs. Well, me? I was just fine where I was at 23. Not married, living at home, no kids, no set career, and no clear road to where I was going. Now I can see how that sounds bad, like I lacked direction, but the direction I chose for that year was wherever the wind blew me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not just some good for nothing chick looking to mooch off of her parents for the rest of her life. In that year I finished up my undergrad, started a blog, pursued a career in marketing, traveled, created life experiences, and dabbled in just about anything I could get my hands on.

Why I was afraid of being 24

  1. It’s so close to 25, which not too long ago seemed so far away.
  2. RENT was just around the corner
  3. I’m not a child but don’t know how to “adult.” Adulting is hard!
  4. I thought I should have my whole life planned and together

It’s a hard age to accept and navigate through but it’s also a truly exciting time.

Here’s what I realized about why I shouldn’t be down about being 24

  1. I have cushion to fall back on. Family and friends. (I am very fortunate in this area)
  2. Youth is on my side! People want to hear what I have to say.
  3. The world is my oyster
  4. There are so many opportunities and time to recover from mistakes

So I decided to kick 2017 off on the right foot. I set some major goals for myself, personal and professional, and promised myself that I would start making things happen!

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Do you feel like you’re constantly dragging? Can’t quite find that kick-starter to get you moving and your gears grinding? Not motivated enough to get out of bed before noon? Do you ever look at the girl who ran, read, cooked then ate breakfast, cleaned, and so on all by 10 AM and get jealous or just simply don’t understand? If you answered yes to any of these, no worries because for a while I did too. Maybe you have that paper or proposal to write, that website to design, or that that product for a client that you need to get finished. Fair enough, so how do you lose that, “I don’t feel like it,” feeling? How do you change the narrative from “I don’t feel like it,” “I can’t,” to, “I will,” “I can,” and, “I did”…?

OK! So it’s the end of March and you’ve already forgotten half of your resolutions for the New Year and are slacking (already) on the rest of them. It’s the same vicious cycle every year. I know, because I have been a leading culprit of this for years.

So what’s different for me this year? For me the key was dropping vague expectations with absolutely no game plan, and instead starting out on a road towards lifestyle changes. Instead of saying “I want to lose weight before summer,” I swapped that for, “I want to start eating cleaner and eating fast food less,” and gave myself a limited amount of and/or specific cheat days. Instead of saying “I want to get good grades,” I designated specific days and times that I had to do homework and study, and set reminders. The most failed resolutions are obvious, losing weight, quitting smoking, traveling, getting jobs or promotions, and saving money. Makes sense since these are common things most people battle with every year and even on a daily. So what are you doing about that? What REAL steps are you taking to get there? What’s your game plan?Quick Guide to Getting Motivated- Babes Breaking Barriers + a free worksheet

Try some of these helpful tips I discovered to help get me motivated and on the path towards accomplishing my goals.

  • Use your body to trick your brain when you’re dragging. Smile, laugh, move around, do a mini workout. Get your body and your brain moving.
  • Get organized. Clean your room/ workspace. Invest in calendars and planners. A few of my favorite are:
  • Take time to journal about what you need to get done and what needs to be done to make that happen. Or, simply make a few lists. Instead of list, do a similar task where you start in the middle of the paper and make task bubbles and connect them however they relate, similar to a Venn diagram.
  • Set goals.  Post them to hold yourself accountable
  • Practice visualization and speak goals into existence.
  • Create vision boards (blog post on these coming soon). Host a vision board party and invite your close girlfriends, your sisters, and your cousins! It’s also a perfect excuse to bust out the bottles of wine 😉
  • Make an inspiration board
  • Prioritize your to-do list.
  • Write steps and assign timelines. Goals without plans are just wishes! Click To Tweet
  • Make a schedule and stick to it!
  • Take time out in the beginning of the day for planning.
  • Put away distractions.  
  • Knock out those very small and quick tasks. You’ll feel like you’re getting somewhere as you check things off of you to-do list. I personally love the satisfaction of drawing a line through a task.
  • Do the hardest/longest things instead of saving them for the end when you’re burnt out.
  • Less multitasking. Focus.
  • Know when you’re on top of your game! Maximize this. Remember that motivation only lasts for so long.
  • Take breaks. Set limits don’t burn yourself out. Try something like, “I’ll do as much as I can in x hours.
  • Rewards/consequences. Examples for rewards: treats, social media or TV time (15mins-1hr), buy something you’ve been wanting, or give yourself a break.
  • Next, Check your progress!
  • Write affirmations and inspirational quotes on sticky notes and post them on your desk and around the room.
  • Get a buddy to do it with. This is especially helpful when it comes to working out and eating better.
  • Rethink your process. If what you’ve been doing isn’t working, change it up, make it a game even.
  • Control technology, don’t let it control you. Set a specific time during the day to get updated on all of your social media feeds.
  • Don’t sleep the day away. Trust me, I know this is a hard one, you may as well call me Sleeping Beauty!
  • Most importantly!! Appreciate what you get done instead of stressing over what you didn’t! Give yourself some credit.

What are you afraid of? The only outcome is getting sh*t done! Get up, reach those goals, and make yourself proud!

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